| How to cope with living in a new environment
No
matter how excited you are by the wonderful prospect of studying
abroad, it can be stressful too. Here are a few tips to get you through
the first couple of weeks (which are the toughest).
Don't be too hard on yourself
Firstly, don't be surprised if you feel confused, lonely and stressed;
you've just taken a big step in your life. Don't be too hard on
yourself either it's perfectly natural to feel this way in a new
environment; just be aware that these feelings will pass with time.
There
is a condition called Culture Shock, which you may suffer from for a
while; it is simply a reaction to your new environment. Of course
things are different in your new home, that's why you came away in the
first place isn't it? What seems alien and strange on day one will seem
a whole lot different in a couple of weeks.
Proven tips to help you
Here are some tips for overcoming stress, loneliness and homesickness.
- Bring
a few small things from home that mean something to you, and keep them
in your room. So what if it's your childhood teddy bear? We won't tell
anyone!
- Make friends as quickly as you
can, even if you are naturally reserved. Ask someone in your
accommodation to join you on a sightseeing trip, or join a group of
people from your class for coffee. Very few people will snub you even
if they don't take you up on the offer right away.
- Don't pass up any social opportunities; they are chances to meet people.
- Join
clubs or societies that interest you (but don't do what many students
do and join every group in sight - you won't have the time or money to
do everything).
- You are probably thinking
other students are feeling ultra-confident and it is only you that is
feeling bad. Don't believe it they probably think the same about you.
- It's
hard to get to know the locals, particularly if there is a language
barrier, but if you have the chance to do so you should. Places of
worship if you're religious, sporting groups, museums, or local cafes
and bars can all be good places to meet people (but if you are going
for the bar option maybe sure it is not a dive and is in a safe area).
- Why
not start a blog? The people you've left behind will love to read it
and, as you'll be accentuating the positive things about your new life,
it will help you too.
- If you get low try and see your international student counsellor or advisor if you've nobody else to talk to.
Keeping in touch with home
Skype gives you free calls and social networking sites will allow you
to post photos of your new location.
Interestingly
though, some people have reported to us that reading what their friends
are doing via Facebook actually makes them feel they are missing out on
the action back home! On the whole though, technology gives you
communications benefits that previous generations of overseas students
could only dream of. In the past, a hurried conversation on an
expensive payphone was the only option for most students.
Give it time
Try to keep a sense of perspective. Our bodies can't hold stress
indefinitely and you will get good moments every day that will last
longer each time, just as the bad feelings will lessen.
Remember why you are where you are and that even if you don't like it,
you won't be there forever. However, by the time you come to leave
you'll almost certainly be wishing that you could stay longer! |